Oy! Is it Thursday again?! The month is just flying by, yet our getaway weekend in Chicago still feels like it is never going to get here… So this week I thought I would pick another one of my dabbles into NF and share my review of MWF Seeking BFF byRachel Bertsche. Thought this would be an interesting read as I have few female companions and could possible relate to the author and her journey.
I borrowed this book from my library.
Read from February 09 to 19, 2013
Book Synopsis from Goodreads along with cover art:
When Rachel Bertsche first moves to Chicago, she’s thrilled to finally share a zip code with her boyfriend. But shortly after getting married, she realizes that her new life is missing one thing: friends. Sure, she has plenty of BFFs—in New York and San Francisco and Boston and Washington, D.C. Still, in her adopted hometown, there’s no one to call at the last minute for girl talk over brunch or a reality-TV marathon over a bottle of wine. Taking matters into her own hands, Bertsche develops a plan: Meeting people everywhere from improv class to friend rental websites, she’ll go on fifty-two friend-dates, one per week for a year, in hopes of meeting her new Best Friend Forever.
My venture into NF reading for the month. Not bad, but not great the author annoyed me some. She made some great observations and it was nice to see she had done some research and hadn’t just relied on her experiences for the book. I was also happy to see that she grew as a person over the year and I think the experiment was definitely good for her and the readers as well. It helps us see that we are not alone in our feelings of isolation and that there are others out there wanting connections, but we are all afraid to put ourselves out there. We all feel like we are the only ones and from time to time we need to hear that we are not. I wanted to read this book because I find myself in a stage of life where I have no close friends. I should put myself out there and try, but unlike the author I think I might be alright with being alone for awhile. I too have grown and while I want a close female friendship I know that I am no longer going to compromise who I am or let myself get caught up in a friendship where I am not respected. If that means I go to the movies by myself, shopping by myself and over share on Facebook to vent or make observations on life then so be it. I did learn some things from this book thou, I do need to be more approachable and willing to not be caught up in my own little world so much. I need to be willing to say yes more and maybe look into social groups or classes where I get to meet people. I live in a rural community and it takes a bit more effort and driving to get out there than a big city. On the other hand thou, people in the small town tend to know each other better and maybe I need to just join in the community more. I would recommend this book to anyone looking for ideas and tips on how to make friends.
Have you read the book? What did you think? Do you think it is easier or harder to make new friends as an adult? As an adult with or without kids?